What should I do if my child cries in kindergarten
Release time : 06/10/2025 09:30:02
In kindergarten, some children will cry at the beginning, while some will be fresh for the first day or two, and then they will realize that they will be separated from their parents during the day, so they will also start to cry.
Especially when they are sent to kindergarten in the morning, when the child cries and holds his parents and refuses to let go. Parents are often very distressed and can't bear to leave.
What should I do when my child cries in kindergarten? What should I do if my child cries in kindergarten? Generally, children will cry for about two weeks in kindergarten. Parents must persevere during this period. They must never go fishing for three days and dry the net for two days. This will make the child's mood more unstable and even cause all previous efforts to be wasted.
Individual children will continue to cry for a month or even longer.
At this time, parents should communicate more with the teacher to understand the specific situation of the baby in kindergarten every day, such as whether they fit in with other children, whether they can participate in group games, how to eat and sleep, find out what attracts the child, and find ways to attract the child's interest.
We should also tell the teacher about the child's preferences and strengths, ask the teacher to take more care of him, show the child's strengths in front of other children, and build the child's confidence.
It is appropriate to offer teachers gifts of appreciation when necessary.
Parents are advised to often take their children to visit kindergartens before they go to kindergarten, participate in other children's activities or have some contact with teachers, or often take their children to places with many children such as children's palaces, children's playgrounds, etc., so as to achieve children's psychological order transition.
In addition, when entering an early education institution, parents take their children to attend classes for a period of time, allowing them to initially feel the relationship between teachers and themselves, teaching and learning, and classmates and themselves, and establish a sense of security.
At the same time, parents should be reminded to pay attention to cultivating their children's independence and self-confidence so that their children can adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible.
Why do children cry in kindergarten? What is the reason why our children cry in kindergarten? 0 - 4 years old is a sensitive period for children's order, especially 2 - 3 years old. During this period, children always follow certain procedures. For example, children always like to put their toys in specific positions and do not allow others to change.
Similarly, before children go to kindergarten, a family education order has been formed. After entering kindergarten, this old order has not yet transitioned to a new order, and the environment has undergone tremendous changes, which will lead to fear and uneasiness, and even crying.
In addition, children under the age of 4 cannot fully understand the relationship between you, me and him, which is also a reason for his psychological uneasiness.
How long does it normal for children to cry when they go to kindergarten? For new babies, this is also the first step on their way to kindergarten and society.
Children come from home to kindergarten, from a familiar environment to a strange place, strange teachers, strange children.
Children need a process of adaptation; children's crying is an instinctual form of self-protection.
At this time, our parents must cooperate with the kindergarten and insist on sending their children into the kindergarten. We must not "fish for three days and dry the net for two days."
On the surface, this will hurt the baby, but it will lengthen the process of adapting to kindergarten. No matter how your child cries, you must insist on entering the park.
Leave the child with the teacher and don't return to watch them.
Because at this time, the baby's focus is on the window, while the teacher's focus is on the child, which often leads to the situation where "the teacher didn't see it, but the child saw it."
The child will mistakenly think that as long as I cry, my parents will come back! The child will cry "persevere".
Generally speaking, children will adapt to kindergarten life in about 2 weeks! Psychological preparation for kindergarten, in order to allow children to adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible, how can parents help children? This can be done in the following four steps: Step 1: Prepare and transition gradually.
Before children enter the park, parents should consciously help children gradually prepare themselves psychologically, living habits and abilities.
For example, take children to visit the kindergarten environment and introduce kindergarten life in positive language.
Don't use teachers or kindergartens as a "trump card" to make rules, and say things like "tell the teacher if you are not obedient" or "I will send you to kindergarten if you are not obedient".
Gradually change the bad living habits of children and form good work and rest rules.
Pay attention to the cultivation of self-care and independent life, so that children can get in touch with as many people as possible from an early age, rather than being attached to one person in the family for everything.
Step Two: Correctly understand and calmly deal with it.
It is normal for children to inevitably cry and have mood swings when they first enter kindergarten.
Some parents feel particularly distressed. When they see their children crying and making a fuss, they can't help but run over to comfort them. Even if they reluctantly leave, they can't feel at ease. They always want to take a look. In fact, this is unnecessary.
The more reluctant parents are, the more anxious their children will feel and the more difficult they will be to adapt.
Parents must first learn to control their emotions, calmly deal with their children's temporary crying, and believe that they will get better little by little under the education and care of kindergarten teachers.
The third step is to communicate in detail and promote games.
When children are exposed to new environments and new companions in kindergarten, they will have many new feelings every day. Parents should pay more detailed attention to their children's performance and experience than usual, strengthen communication and communication between parents and children, and guide children to talk about life in kindergarten, talk about interesting things, and what new friends they have met.
This kind of communication should be as active, playful and interesting as possible. For example, let the child tell his beloved toy rabbit whether he was crying in kindergarten today. It can also attract the child to teach his parents what he learned in kindergarten. It can also let the child and his parents perform various kindergarten games together.
"Hey, children! Welcome to kindergarten! Are you ready? Let's start a gamified journey! First, let's play a fun game-"Meet new friends". In this game, we invite some children to come and play with us. You will see these children, their names are "New Friends". You will hear their laughter and feel their happiness. Then, we will play a Mini games together-"Looking for Treasure." In this game, we will look for some treasures in every corner of the kindergarten. You will see these treasures, they are all different colors and shapes. You will hear the sound of these treasures and feel their mystery. Finally, we will end this game and go back to the classroom. But don't worry, this is just the beginning! In the coming days, you will encounter more games and challenges. Let us work together to become the best ourselves! All right, children, let's get started! "
The fourth step is to actively cooperate and persevere.
Whether children can smoothly adapt to collective life depends on the consistent cooperation of their homes with education.
Parents will introduce all aspects of their children's conditions to teachers, so that teachers can grasp the characteristics of their children as soon as possible and teach them in accordance with their aptitude.
For children who have trouble adapting to group living, it is important to align with the expectations of kindergarten rather than hoping for special considerations from teachers.
Additionally, one should participate in various activities at kindergartens to enhance understanding of kindergarten education and maintain alignment with the pace of kindergarten education.
The preparation of supplies for children to go to kindergarten is now getting better and better, and the facilities and equipment in kindergartens are becoming more and more comprehensive.
Generally speaking, kindergartens will uniformly prepare daily necessities such as bedding, tableware, cups, and towels, and make cabinets in the classroom to put clothes, shoes, schoolbags and other items for children.
Therefore, after the mother has examined the kindergarten situation and asked in detail about the items provided by the kindergarten, she should prepare for her child's entry into kindergarten according to the needs.
1. Prepare a beautiful little backpack for your baby.
Even if you already have one, you might as well buy a new one for your baby when you enter the park. You can also bring your baby with you when you buy a schoolbag and let him choose the one he likes best among the appropriate varieties.
After coming back, embroider or write the baby's name on the surface of the schoolbag to make it easier to distinguish it from others and make it easier for the teacher to identify it.
Let the baby remember what his schoolbag looks like and where the name is embroidered. You can also tell him: "Carrying a new schoolbag and going to kindergarten means that the baby has grown up and gained skills. Mom believes that the baby will be very, very good."
For babies just starting school, what is in their backpack isn't important; however, carrying their beloved new backpack to kindergarten each day can add a sense of excitement and happiness to their experience, and also give them a sense of accomplishment.
2. Clothes should be prepared for your baby to wear for school, including shirts, pants, and socks.
It is best to have an open-front outer garment, which is easy for the baby to put on and take off. It also facilitates easy access for adding or removing clothes during play activities.
The pants should have elastic bands for easy wearing and taking off, comfortable and convenient.
The pants should be dead-in-the-middle, for hygiene.
When entering the kindergarten, everyone can sit wherever they please. It is important to avoid contamination from unclean substances and prevent the transmission of diseases among children.
Additionally, it helps avoid the unsanitary situation where babies might sit on the ground during play.
If individual babies struggle to urinate by themselves, it's best that the outermost pair of underwear be made of a non-pegged design.
Do not equip your baby with a back carrier; it is inconvenient for them to put on and take off, and the baby can't even manage the buckles by themselves.
Boys should not wear pants with zippers on the front to avoid accidental entanglement with their penis during diaper changes.
Let the baby recognize their own clothes, and sew their name on all of their trousers and shirts so that they can't be mistaken or lost.
Besides the clothes you wear every day, it is best to prepare a complete set of clothes for your baby based on the seasons. This includes one pair of socks. If possible, store them in the kindergarten or place them in the school bag to change when your baby accidentally wets their diaper, gets dirty from playing, or other activities.
If it's a whole-time childcare situation, you should prepare more change of clothes for your child based on the requirements of the kindergarten and the number of days your child spends there.
Apart from wearing a pair of underwear on Monday, at least one pair of socks and one set of underwear and outerwear every day. It is also advisable to have at least one complete set of underwear and outerwear for emergency use.
If it's summer, babies are active and sweaty, so you might consider changing their clothes every day.
Some kindergartens with good conditions have dedicated personnel who clean and change the baby's clothes daily. In such cases, one can reduce the number accordingly.
Additionally, bring one or two small handkerchiefs for your baby to wipe their sweat and mouth. They can also be used as teaching aids in craft classes taught by teachers.
This is also the new proposition advocated for now, which emphasizes simplicity and environmental protection.
3. In spring and autumn, prepare a gilet or thin wool sweater for your baby.
When winter comes, prepare a cotton vest or a cotton blouse that is slightly longer so it can cover up the baby's buttocks.
When kindergartens organize physical exercises and outdoor activities, if the children wear outerwear, especially cotton coats in winter, it may affect their performance and make them sweat easily.
If you don't wear an outer garment when going outdoors, especially in cold weather, the indoor-outdoor temperature difference often causes your baby to be unable to adapt quickly and may easily catch a cold.
A jacket, appropriately added, can keep warm without affecting movement, which is very useful.
Of course, some well-equipped kindergartens will prepare for their babies in advance.
4. Shoes for babies should be easy to put on and take off, have distinctive features, lightweight and comfortable, non-slip, no shoelaces needed, and suitable for activities.
The convenience of wearing and taking off is something that goes without saying.
Newly enrolled children often have trouble distinguishing between their own and others' shoes. A distinctive pair of shoes makes it easier for the child to identify them.
When babies are active, their little feet often sweat. For infants who are frequently carried, it is recommended to wear an additional pair of shoes daily, changing them out for fresh ones to ensure comfort and dryness.
Unless the kindergarten has prepared them, you'll also need to provide a pair of slippers.
When it's time for bed, babies usually put on slippers to get in and out of their cot.
Even babies who are being nursed should use it every day when washing their face or bathing.
Slippers should generally be made of plastic, and they should be the right size and fit for comfort. The soles should also be non-slip to ensure safety when your baby goes to the bathroom or washroom.
It is important to remind parents not to buy shoes for their baby that are too large because of the baby's rapid growth of feet.
Big shoes do not fit well, especially during group activities like marching drills and games, as well as running, jumping, and climbing. They easily come off when babies go to the bathroom, significantly affecting their mobility and posing a safety risk.
5. Bed linen is a necessity for kindergarten, requiring parents to prepare their own bed linen for their children: blankets, sheets, pillows, and pillowcases.
Some kindergartens also prepare beds, pillows, and pillowcases for the dormitories in advance, requiring students to bring their own blankets.
The enrollment notices for kindergartens are usually very clear, so mothers just need to prepare accordingly.
Of course, if you want to prepare a quilt, you will need to prepare several thick and thin quilts according to the season so that it can adapt to the change of seasons.
It's also a good idea to embroider the baby's name on the bedding, like the quilts.
6. Photos: Some preschools may require a few photos of your baby for display purposes, such as on water bottle holders or towel racks, to help the child recognize their own belongings. Others may be posted on the homework display board.
Placing one's own photo in the classroom can give children a sense of belonging and ownership, ideally a neat and standardized portrait. Photos from childhood are often mocked by other children.
7. Some kindergartens require parents to prepare some learning materials or tools in a standardized manner, such as crayons and colored construction paper.
However, this generally happens after the start of the school term, so it's better to wait for the notice from the kindergarten first.
How to make your baby happy about going to kindergarten. Before the new school year starts, parents should prepare their babies thoroughly.
Prepare in advance to make the transition smooth for your child, so they can enjoy kindergarten.
Getting to know the environment and teachers of kindergarten is one of the biggest fears for babies about starting school. Therefore, it's important to take your baby to visit the kindergarten and play there so that they can become familiar with the environment and teachers.
Many kindergartens hold open house activities before the official school year begins. It is best to take your child to these events, as it allows them to familiarize themselves with the environment of the kindergarten, including the layout of different floors, and help them understand where the restrooms, classrooms, and dormitories are located.
If you need to drink water or urinate, what do you do?
On the other hand, it's important to familiarize young children with the people at the kindergarten. Teach them about the teachers there, and try to introduce them to each one.
If there were other children participating in the open day activities, that would be even better, as it could allow the children to get to know each other and play together.
Prior to enrollment, if possible, you can bring your child to the kindergarten playground more often.
Let the child play with the teacher, and once they get familiar with each other, parents can leave them for a while when they play together. This will allow the child to gradually get used to being away from their parents and teachers.
Go to kindergarten a few more times. When the school starts, hand over the baby to a teacher he is familiar with. When he meets the children he knows, the baby will no longer feel afraid.
Bring toys that your baby is familiar with. For a baby who has just entered kindergarten, he may know very few teachers and children when the school starts, and all kinds of things in the kindergarten are relatively unfamiliar.
In this case, he can bring his favorite toys, which can soothe him to a certain extent.
After a while, consider not bringing toys anymore.
Of course, parents will provide emotional counseling some time before children enter the kindergarten, and try to tell them what the baby may encounter in kindergarten.
Parents should take a good look at the kindergarten's "Admission Instructions", prepare the corresponding items for their babies, and provide psychological counseling for their babies according to the kindergarten's tips.
When the baby is mentally prepared, he will not be afraid in kindergarten.
In kindergartens, there are usually swings, slides, sand pits, and other attractions. Some kindergartens also have small animals like rabbits, cats, and dogs, which attract children to their liking for the kindergarten.
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