How to prevent jealousy from the eldest child in a two child family
Release time : 06/09/2025 09:30:01
A little prince was added to the British royal family recently, and that was a cause for national celebration! Recently, Kate Middleton took some adorable photos of her baby boy and his sister. Despite being known for being grumpy, the little prince even gave his sister a kiss, and he couldn't help but smile so brightly! Seeing how happy their family is together, with the eldest brother and second sister getting along so well, it's truly enviable. However, in China, things are quite different. "The eldest brother feeds his sister nasal mucus, the eldest brother forces his mother to have an abortion, and the eldest brother makes New Year's wishes not to have his sister," various unsettled news. It seems that when planning to have a second child, one must first prepare the eldest brother for jealousy.
How can families with two children prevent their eldest child from harboring jealousy towards their younger sibling? With the increasing number of single-child households in recent years, it is believed that many families had one or two children in the past. These siblings grew up together, often through roughhousing and occasional quarrels. However, there seems to be less resentment and discontent among the older children towards their younger sibling today, especially regarding a desire to have a sister or even bullying her.
In fact, a significant portion of these issues can be attributed to the family education. Parents often overly indulge their children, causing them to become somewhat selfish. Additionally, poor communication can lead to misunderstandings on the child's part.
Therefore, before having a second child, one must first overcome the challenges faced by the eldest child and ensure they remain emotionally stable. It is crucial not to make them feel as if they are being abandoned.
SO, how can we prevent the boss from bullying his younger brothers and sisters due to jealousy? 1. Talking with children.
Parents planning to have a second child should inform their children in advance that they will have a little brother or sister. This can help prepare the child for the possibility and prevent any misunderstandings about the parents' intentions.
2. Let the boss know that his brother and sister are his close playmates.
For the older brother, they might not understand what having a younger sibling means, because they don't know what it implies, good or bad.
So parents can chat with their children. The benefits of having a younger brother and sister are that he will not play alone, sleep alone, and have younger brothers and sisters to play with him.
3. After becoming mature, the eldest brother decided to have a second child.
In fact, if family education is done well, it is completely possible to prevent the eldest brother from being jealous of his younger brothers and sisters. But if parents usually pamper the eldest son, then they might as well wait until the eldest son becomes sensible and have a second child.
How to correctly educate their children in families with two children requires patience and correct methods. Nowadays, many only children have more barbaric personalities, and some are more selfish and do not know how to share.
So if they suddenly have a younger brother and sister, they may be very resistant, and all kinds of tempers of young masters and young ladies will emerge.
So whether you have only the eldest child at home or two children, family education must be done well.
1. Give equal love and respect.
Children will have the mentality of comparing themselves, especially those with glass hearts. Their feelings are very delicate and they can detect who their parents prefer.
Parents had better be fair and not be partial.
2. Educate children to learn to share.
Some families cultivate children who are spoiled and entitled, while others have children who are polite, well-behaved, lively, but also obedient.
Parents are naturally drawn to the child with a good disposition, who doesn't let their emotions get out of hand and can share without being selfish. Look at Prince William from "The Royals Are Back" - he's just so well-behaved! He's a real gentleman. And when you see Wang Shilin on "Where Are We Going?", you'll surely fall in love with this chubby little girl. She comes from a royal family, but she doesn't have any princess tantrums. Even living in a less than ideal environment, she doesn't let it affect her mood. She loves animals and is incredibly polite. It's clear that Wang and Li Xiang have done an excellent job raising her.
When there are two children in a family, and one of them starts to fight with the other, what should parents do? Many parents have experienced fighting among siblings before, only to end up loving each other. However, today's children are much harder to teach than their predecessors, possibly due to the influence of the times. Children now spend time on iPads cutting fruits or playing various P2P games, while the same care is still given by parents and grandparents.
So, previously when there were two children fighting at home, it wasn't a problem, and the fight would subside in a moment. But now, it seems we can't afford to take it lightly anymore; of course, we need to analyze situations accordingly.
When parents discover that their first and second children are fighting, they should first try to mediate the conflict. It is important not to take sides, but to understand the situation fully before acting as a referee to get both children to calm down. You also need to patiently analyze the right and wrong in this situation, helping the children recognize their mistakes and committing to not fighting again.
However, when children have conflicts, parents should not always intervene. It is better to let them solve it themselves, as this can also be an opportunity for them to grow and develop.
When a family has two children, it can be quite amusing to see them fighting over attention. For the parents, this may seem like a harmless game of "battles for dominance" among the children. However, for these two siblings, it is essentially a war sparked by jealousy.
When the mother picks up the eldest child, the second child might also run over to her and ask for a hug, indicating that they both believe the mother is their own and cannot be given to others.
When faced with a child's competitiveness and tantrums, it is crucial for parents to first focus on cultivating good family education.
How to make children friendly, not to torture each other, to look at each other in a bad way? Such a situation will lead to conflict and fights between the children.
Parents should always treat their children equally, for example, when it comes to buying clothes for the eldest child, they should also buy clothes for the youngest. It is best to bring both children along when shopping so that they can help choose the clothes and prevent the waste of purchasing clothes that neither child will wear.
Parents should make time to take their children out for picnics, flower viewing, or weekend hikes. This allows the children to spend more time together and fosters a strong bond between them, preventing any issues of competition.
Let children love each other, as daddy loves mama. This is a better way to educate children.
Which families can consider having two children? As far as the current policy is concerned, couples who have one of the only children can have a second child. If it does not comply with the policy regulations, it is best not to secretly have a second child.
However, even if it meets the two-child policy, the family's conditions must pass, and it must also consider who should take care of the second child. Whether the woman will take care of the child at home full-time or leave it to the parents.
When considering having a second child, there are two important factors to consider: whether both partners have the energy and time to take care of a child.
Secondly, the cost of raising children is too high.
It is understood that most of the single couples who do not plan to have a second child believe that the current pace of urban life is fast and raising children requires a lot of time and energy, and the two children are simply beyond care.
In addition, considering Dabao's feelings, if he wants to have a second child, and his family conditions are decent, he may as well wait for Dabao to be sensible and reborn.
It is understood that in terms of the timing of giving birth to a second child, 30% of individual women of childbearing age who have not yet pregnant a second child believe that it is better to have a 2-3 year interval between the first child and the second child, and nearly 60% of individual women of childbearing age believe that the first child is separated from the second child by 3-5 years.
Everyone who is planning to have a second child should think carefully.
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