Reasons for the formation of helicopter parents
Release time : 06/09/2025 09:30:01
Helicopter Parents? What the heck? It's like a helicopter, always hovering above their children, getting involved in everything they do, and landing right when their child is about to face a challenge... Parents who are everywhere and ready to jump in at a moment's notice can be described as "helicopter parents."
Of course, the emergence of helicopter parents is not solely due to individual factors. Social, economic, and policy factors also play a role.
Let's now delve into the reasons behind helicopter parents with MomNet's guide. As the saying goes, "It's not surprising that those who are hateful have something to be pitiable about."
Helicopter parents are indeed unacceptable, but they are also a product of this harsh society.
Why do parents helicopter around their children? Perhaps after reading the following four points, you'll understand.
1. The phenomenon of "second-generation only" has made parents more focused on their children's education. Although the policy of having only one child per family was implemented in some areas, the reality is that in most cases, every family only has one child.
Such a situation leads to parents' "over-parenting" their only child or daughter.
2. The competition in society is so fierce that parents are overly anxious about their children's education, fearing they will "go the wrong way". Social, economic, media, and policy factors have made parents face unprecedented pressure today.
They must work hard to keep their jobs and income.
The pressure of competition from one's own generation has made parents worried that their children will also endure hardships like their own, leading them to place greater emphasis on the growth and education of their children, preferring to provide more than enough rather than less.
3. Misguided Parenting View: The belief that children are blank slates, with their development entirely determined by parental guidance is a misguided perspective. This view often leads to helicopter-parenting, where parents overstep and make decisions for their children without considering the child's perspective or their own experiences. Instead of guiding their children as they see fit, helicopter-parents tend to take on the role of making choices and doing things for their children, which can hinder their personal growth and independence.
4. The defects of the educational system and the scarcity of community resources have led to a situation where the college entrance examination becomes a straitjacket for children's development, even for those with talents. Even talented children must pass various selection processes to determine their fate, leaving parents helpless.
Many parents are aware that tutoring may not always be beneficial for their children, but when their peers all enroll in tutoring programs, or when they cannot assist their child with homework or prepare for exams, or when their child's academic performance is below average and they face discrimination at school or within the family, how many parents dare to say, "I will not send my child to tutoring"? The lack of social support systems and the chaotic values presented by the media further exacerbate the situation faced by parents.
Helicopter parents refer to parents who constantly observe their child's every move, as if they are helicopters hovering overhead.
They are like helicopters, circling over the children, doing everything for the children, fearing that something should happen to the children.
At present,"helicopter parents" are mainly divided into three categories, which are manifested in three aspects: life, study and interpersonal communication: 1. Helicopter parents in life: Over-take care of their children in life and prevent their children from interfering in all housework at home. Labor, including children's rooms and clothing organization.
Such parents only ask their children to "study hard and don't have to worry about anything else."
2. Helicopter parents in learning: Regardless of their children's interests, arrange a series of extracurricular cram classes according to their own wishes to help their children choose tutoring books and extracurricular books.
3. The helicopter parent in interpersonal communication: Assisting children in handling relationships with classmates and friends.
For instance, if a child and a classmate have a conflict, they might run to the teacher's office to stand up for their child.
Helicopter parents have harmful effects. Whether it is helicopter parenting of any type, they deprive many children of opportunities for growth and are extremely detrimental to their development.
Over-managing everything can lead to a loss of independence in children, who may become overwhelmed by basic life issues and even lose confidence.
Choosing a subject that doesn't align with the child's interests can lead to passive learning. Over time, this can result in a disinterest in learning and even develop into apathy or rebellion.
In the process of interpersonal communication, if parents interfere too much, children may not be able to experience a series of processes in dealing with others, and finally be unable to independently interact with others.
Many parents complain after their children reach adulthood that they are not adept at human interactions. However, it is precisely because they overstepped in handling their child's interpersonal relationships during their childhood.
In addition, the behavior of "helicopter parents" is not only detrimental to the growth of children, but also has intangible harm to the parents themselves.
Helicopter parents' primary focus is on their children, and they devote all their energy and attention to them.
However, children will one day grow up and develop their own independent consciousness, wanting to have their own autonomous space.
At this moment, parents may feel very upset and at a loss for what to do. In severe cases, they might even develop depression.
How can helicopter parents change themselves? Instead of using helicopters, it is better to let children, like most other classmates, hone them in the real social environment and appreciate the various feelings brought by traffic jams.
So, if you truly love your children, don't be a helicopter parent.
So, how should helicopter parents change themselves? Let's take a look below! Helicopter parents must first change themselves in their concepts.
In terms of action, start from small things and learn to let go rather than do everything.
For example, in life, children can first tidy up their own rooms, clothes and books, decorate and beautify their own rooms according to their own preferences, etc. In this way, children will also have a sense of accomplishment, be willing to further learn some housework, and gradually develop self-care skills.
In terms of learning, parents can first let their children choose extracurricular books based on their own hobbies.
Regarding the choice of cram schools, it is best to discuss with your child and make a joint decision.
This process can also let children understand that they are responsible for their own choices and establish a concept of self-responsibility.
When faced with some problems in interpersonal communication, parents can help their children come up with ideas and discuss them with them, but they cannot act on their behalf. They must let the children handle them themselves.
Moreover, parents should realize that children will inevitably reach a point where they need to be independent.
If you want your child to become a person who can live, it is naturally impossible to do everything.
Parents may wish to cultivate more interests and hobbies, shift the focus of life, and not let their children only live in their lives. This may be more conducive to their children's self-growth.
What constellations are easy to become helicopter parents? Today's young people like to talk about constellations. In this case, let's be fashionable and talk about helicopter parents from the perspective of constellations! So, what constellation is rich in helicopter parents? Let's take a look below! First place: Capricorn When it comes to helicopter parents, the first person to bear the brunt is naturally Capricorn.
Capricorns have a strong desire to fight. They have been influenced by traditional concepts since childhood and have been instilled in the concept that they must not lose at the starting line.
Influenced by these ideologies, the Sagittarius has learned self-management since he was conscious.
Once parents, they will naturally subtly transfer this concept and thought to their children.
Although they do consider that children need to learn independence, they cannot help but intervene and manage their children's affairs to the greatest extent possible.
Second place: Cancer. From a young age, Cancer has always been portrayed as a well-behaved child, accustomed to and fond of following the plans and directions set by their elders, rather than feeling lost.
Based on such a mindset, they are very dependent on powerful individuals to take responsibility for their own lives.
But people always have to grow up. If Cancer ascends to the position of parents, they will begin to transform into powerful patron gods and will play an important role in their children's lives.
Precisely because they didn't like to take responsibility before, this attitude of being responsible to their children to the end is a manifestation of Cancer's love.
They will also ask their children to develop according to their own expectations.
Even when it's hard and exhausting, Cancers will take on all the responsibilities of raising a child, planning and arranging everything on their own.
In their view, they simply don't want their children to experience the confusion of their own past lives.
Third Place: The Librans, who are known for their grace and refinement, have a high standard for the quality of life they lead.
Perhaps their abilities are not the best, but life is the most comfortable and happy.
Libras are also proud of this and have clear life goals.
Once you become a parent, Libra will also transfer this life plan to your child.
They will plan the path their children will take in the future based on their children's talents, and will constantly revise them and slowly cultivate their children in a targeted development direction.
Compared to the previous two zodiac parents, the Virgo parent doesn't have such a strong presence; they don't demand that others follow their expectations rigidly. Instead, they use various persuasive methods to encourage their children to voluntarily follow the path they have laid out for them.
Fourth place: Leo, as we all know, is known for its strong sense of power and desire to demand strictness from others. It has always been the leader in a group.
For lions, this sense of responsibility serves as not just a driving force but also an avenue for realizing their life's worth.
If a Leo is a parent, their ability to manage everything will not change. They might even try to interfere in their child's life to achieve comprehensive management.
The lion parents are strict in their expectations of their children and always hope for them to achieve greater success.
So, lions will always intervene and participate in the lives of children.
Fifth place: Virgo, everyone knows Virgo is a born perfectionist who doesn't need anyone else's interference. They are always strict with themselves since childhood.
A Virgo cannot tolerate any flaws in themselves.
And this mentality will also transform into their motivation to improve themselves.
What they care about is the process, and what they find most meaningful is to achieve recognition from everyone through their own efforts.
Once they become parents, Virgos not only instill the concept of a perfect life but also take an active and strict role in guiding their children.
If there are faults in children, they will correct them without being tired of it.
Regardless of the outcome afterwards, Virgos hope that their children can consciously improve everything they have.
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