Baby sleeping in separate beds
Release time : 04/21/2025 09:30:01
From the moment a baby is born, parents' hearts and gazes can no longer stay away from him, even desiring to cradle their child in their mouth.
Under such sentiments, combined with the influence of traditional Chinese family customs, most mothers would share a large bed with their newborn baby.
Experts at MommyNet.com advise that if possible, it is advisable to let your baby sleep in a crib as soon as he or she is born.
Reasons for separating baby's bed from the parents' bed: 1. Conducive to the baby's physical health. If the baby shares a bed with the parents, especially if they are cramped between adults, it may harm the baby's health.
The little one nestled between grown-ups, surrounded by the thick blankets of their parents, might accidentally be smothered.
During sleep, adults exhale carbon dioxide which permeates throughout the baby's sleeping area all night long, causing the baby to lack fresh air and experience restlessness, nightmares, and crying at night. If sharing a bed with an adult, germs on the adult's body can easily infect the baby. At times, parents' movements or shifts during sleep can awaken the baby, affecting their sleep quality.
Therefore, allowing your baby to sleep alone is beneficial to their health.
2. It is beneficial to foster independence in one's heart from an early age, as self-awareness is a crucial indicator for children to correctly understand themselves.
Studies have shown that children's independence develops from form to content. The form refers to the tangible behaviors of children, while the content refers to their inner world.
Allowing children to share a bed with their parents at an appropriate age can help foster independence and self-care skills, as well as promote psychological maturity.
>>Experts say that children do not sleep in separate beds from their parents. Big babies can do many things when they are alone or without adult assistance, such as playing with themselves, talking to themselves, etc., which can prevent them from being overly dependent on their parents when they grow up. When they feel lonely and lonely in the future, their childhood experiences of solitude will help them adapt quickly to their surrounding environment.
3. It is conducive to promoting the relationship between couples. With the addition of treasures to the family, the focus of family life shifts to the treasures, and many of them revolve around the treasures.
As a result, communication, communication and mutual concern between husband and wife are much less than before.
It is often the mother who has to coax her baby to sleep at night, and when encountering a difficult baby, she has to coax her baby for a long time.
After baby falls asleep, both the couple is already exhausted, if it goes on long-term will inevitably affect their relationship.
4. Avoid forming a fixation on either parent, as by the time your child reaches three years old, they should have begun to distinguish between being male or female and have developed their first sense of gender identity, which is an important stage in their psychological development.
If a child does not share a bed with their parents for an extended period, it may lead to the development of an Oedipus complex, resulting in lack of self-love, self-discipline, and even sexual identification disorders.
When should a baby be allowed to sleep on his or her own? Prolonged co-sleeping with parents may lead to attachment issues. Many families share a bed with their children, but as children grow, concerns arise: it's uncomfortable for three people to sleep in one bed; some children are still in elementary school and need their mothers to fall asleep with them; some children fear the dark and are hesitant to sleep alone at night... When should a baby be allowed to sleep on his or her own? Experts from Momnet caution that if possible, it is best to allow your baby to sleep in a crib when they are born.
If you don't do it, you should put your baby to bed earlier. The sooner you do it, the easier it is. The later you do it, the harder it is.
The experts at Mama.com suggest that it is best to separate the bed when children are not yet attached to their mother's skin or smell.
This can start from the age of 1 year, before 2 years old. As long as parents realize that they need to do this, it can begin.
At the same time, mothers need to be mentally prepared for a process of separating beds. During this process, mothers must firmly believe in their child's ability to sleep alone.
Often, the issue of children not being able to separate from their mothers is not because the children are reluctant to leave their mothers; rather, it's because the mothers are reluctant to let go of their children.
Here, we would like to remind mothers not to say "When you grow up, you must sleep in separate beds!" or "Big kids have to sleep by themselves."
"Letting children lose their sense of security."
When baby sleeps in a separate room, the positioning of the crib is crucial.
To start, you can lower one side of the guardrail next to the large bed.
So the child will not feel so much separation from mom.
Mom can take care of the child by turning sideways, which is very convenient.
Over time, you can gradually widen the distance between the small bed and the large bed.
In addition, when parents are separated into beds, it is best to control the room temperature at around 21 degrees Celsius.
Parents should pay attention to protecting their children's stomachs and shoulders. These places can easily get sick if they catch cold.
>>You should start sleeping in beds starting from the baby. Experts say that the latest time to sleep in beds with your child should not exceed 3 years old.
On the one hand, 3 years old is the period when children's sense of independence is sprouting and developing rapidly. Arranging children to sleep alone is very good for cultivating children's sense of psychological independence.
This cultivation of independence and self-care ability is directly related to the development of children's future social adaptability.
When children are around four or five years old, they enter a phase where boys begin to have an intense attachment to their mothers and girls begin to have an intense attachment to their fathers. This period of attachment is different from the previous phase of simply liking and being with their parents. It not only shows increased dependency on their parents but also possesses exclusivity. This can lead to children lacking self-love and self-discipline in the future, and even develop sexual identification disorders.
Therefore, separating beds for children before the age of three is considered easy-going. However, separating them by four to five years old becomes quite challenging.
How to do it, before bedtime should not let the baby too excited. Experts said that in fact, from the baby born, can be separated from the bed.
After a baby is born, it is usually prepared with a crib. It can be placed near the parents' bed to allow the child to get out of their arms early and to prevent any accidental harm from the parents.
Children aged 3 to 6 years old should be encouraged to sleep in their own rooms as much as possible, with the earliest age being six years old or later. This is to gradually cultivate children's sense of independence.
Particularly for parents of opposite sex, it is advised not to share a bed with their child until they are four years old. Prolonged and consistent co-sleeping may lead to abnormal sexual orientation in children.
Cai Jinlin suggests that, when it comes to separating children from their parents' beds, the initial period can be quite challenging, with the child crying incessantly and exhibiting signs of disorientation.
Parents must understand that this process is normal and a necessary phase. They may experience anxiety and feelings of guilt, which is perfectly okay. At such times, parents should encourage their children in a "gentle and persistent" manner.
Expert advice: How to gradually separate from your child's bed According to Cai Jinlin, as parents gradually cultivate their children's sense of independence, appropriate adjustments can be made. For instance, on the first night, stay with them for a while until they fall asleep before leaving.
A couple of weeks from now, you can take a little longer to leave. When your child is feeling sleepy, just excuse yourself and take some things or go out for a bit, then come back without returning. Let your child sleep on their own.
In a little while, you can set up the sleep environment for the child and turn on the night light or open the door, wait until the child falls asleep before leaving.
When it comes to separating the baby from their crib, there are several things parents need to keep in mind. From the moment the baby is born, they should be able to sleep in their own room. The fear of being left behind and feeling abandoned in the dark can contribute to a child's anxiety when sleeping alone.
When parents are training their babies to sleep alone, they need to pay attention to soothing the baby's psychological needs so that the baby can have enough sense of security and learn to sleep alone.
Make sure your voice sounds reassuring to the baby.
To get baby to sleep alone, the first step is to establish a sense of security in your baby.
Even 4-6 months old babies can show signs of anxiety when left alone.
When your mother's experience has taught you to gently separate the baby from bed, at that time, no matter where your parents are in the house, they must make sure that the baby can hear their reassuring voice, so that he clearly knows they are nearby and not left behind.
Such sense of security can boost the courage and confidence to sleep on their own.
2. Find a doll for your baby to befriend.
2-3 Children aged 20 are the stage when they can really start learning to sleep on their own.
But children at this age will be afraid of certain things for no reason, let alone facing a big room alone.
At this time, parents can find some dolls for the baby to be friends and tell him that these friends will love and protect him.
At the same time, leave a small light for the baby and leave the door open.
When a child has a bad dream and wakes up, do not take them to the adults' room. Instead, stay with the baby in their own room to help them calm down and understand that their bedroom is the safest place.
3. Goodnight Rituals.
When the child becomes emotional, it is impossible for him to go to sleep peacefully and quietly.
How can we make sure the baby doesn't end up in a fight over sleep? First, establish a regular bedtime routine.
Subsequently, consider adopting peaceful and calm bedtime rituals to help your baby drift off to sleep.
Tell stories, listen to gentle music, say goodnight to the baby, say goodnight to the doll, say goodnight to your parents.
Such a ceremony can provide the baby with more security and feel his actions are fixed and predictable.
A relaxed and soothing atmosphere can easily induce a baby's desire to sleep.
4. Parents and parents need to overcome their own concerns.
Maybe you have already prepared a cot that belongs to your baby, but you can't make up your mind to let the baby sleep on your own. You always have a lot of worries for the baby.
So the remaining question is: It's time for mom and dad to discuss it and try to let the baby sleep alone.
Give your baby confidence that he can sleep well at night.
As long as you are prepared, you will be mentally prepared and able to deal with it even if your child suddenly encounters some problems while sleeping alone.
How to make it healthier for your baby to sleep in separate beds? The placement of the cot should be careful to appease the baby's mood before going to bed. Don't let the baby get too excited before going to bed. If the baby has a habitual prelude to crying before going to bed, don't immediately strip the baby naked.
Parents should pay attention to their baby's sleep habits at ordinary times, help their baby establish a good sleep reflex habit, and make preparations before the prelude to crying begins to make him laugh and make him feel happy.
Then you can help the baby undress.
Clean your baby's body After your baby's mood is stable, you can start cleaning your baby's body.
Wet your baby's body and gently rub it with your palms until the body is slightly red. The force should not be too strong or too light. You can use shower gel every other day. After rinsing it with clean water, apply moisturizer. Take a large towel and wrap your baby's body around, dry it, and place it in a sleeping bag.
The whole process should be fast and straightforward, and the room temperature should be adjusted to about 25 degrees.
Leave after the baby falls asleep. After the baby lies down, don't walk away immediately. You can look into his eyes, talk to him, gently hum a song or pat his body, and do all kinds of gentle activities that suit your baby until he falls asleep.
Some mothers leave their baby to sleep when they go off to do other things, which is actually not the case. The baby doesn't really fall asleep until you leave, and if you leave him for a while, he will wake up. After several such experiences, you find that your baby has become more difficult to sleep.
The right thing to do is to keep the activity going for a little while after you see your baby close his eyes.
Then, sit beside the baby and find a book to read. After a while, leave them alone. This is to establish enough trust between you and the baby.
Mothers share their experiences on how to let their babies sleep in a separate room, according to a netizen from the Mom's Net. "All along, we have been waiting until our baby is asleep in her big bed before we put her back into her small bed."
Occasionally, it was too cold a few days, and I would agree to her sleep with us, but not in the middle, but next to her. There was a small bed next to the big bed, so there was no need to be afraid of falling out of bed.
On the big bed, my baby and I played various bedtime games. The closest time between mother and daughter was that time. After the baby fell asleep, we slept in our own beds and did not affect each other.
Netizen "Tongxin" on Ma.com: Babies who are used to sleeping in their own cot will adapt faster when they go to kindergarten, because they sleep on their own cot during naps in kindergarten.
In her mind, the small bed is her own space, and the large bed is the space of her parents. When sleeping in the small bed, you can place hairy dolls to accompany you as you want, and when sleeping in the big bed, you need to ask for your mother's consent.
After years of co-sleeping, there was no significant issue with our sleep habits and I didn't feel that she was a third party. It seems like it is the right idea to let my baby sleep in her own crib from a young age.
Mama's Net Friend "Xiaohu Niu": My baby has been sleeping by herself since birth. She likes her own little bed and cries when it's time for bedtime to go back to sleep in her little bed.
Chemy from the moms' forum says: "My baby has slept in their own bed since they were babies."
As soon as it gets time to sleep, I have to go back to my bed.
Actually, we should start training our children to be independent from a young age.
Mom's Net Friend "Baby20081019": My baby is also like this now. Every night, when she falls asleep on the big bed, I just hold her and put her in the small bed to sleep. In the morning, when she wakes up, she doesn’t cry, just turns over on her own, then stares at me silently, leaving me clueless as to when she woke up.
Netizen from Mom's Network "Qiran Mom": My child sleeps with Grandma, but sometimes when they really miss me, they just stay in my bed and share a night with me.
As for sharing a bed, I feel that each child's situation may be different.
My child Qiran is now four years old, and he has also expressed a desire to sleep by himself. However, due to the hot weather, we keep the air conditioning on at night. I'm concerned that he might catch cold if he sleeps alone. For now, I'll wait until the weather cools down before letting him sleep by himself.
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