Urban left behind children
Release time : 06/24/2025 09:30:01
Rong Yingtai's "The Watch" has this passage: "What we call a 'parent-child relationship' is merely that your and his connection is one of continuous watching him as he walks away from us, slowly and steadily."
Standing at the end of the road, watching him gradually disappear behind a bend in the path, and with his back to you, silently telling you not to chase.
However, nowadays, in the bustling city, their positions have been reversed.
Due to parents being away from home or working overtime, many children in cities are left behind at home, watching their parents' backs gradually recede... What is a city left-behind child? When it comes to left-behind children, the first thing that comes to mind are those who are left behind in rural areas due to their parents working away from home or going to work in cities, and then staying behind.
However, in the bustling cities today, there are also a group of children who are not typical in terms of orphans, which is called urban orphans.
What are urban left-behind children? Due to their parents being away from home or busy with work, either they stay with a nanny, or grow up under the care of grandparents, or they go to school or other tutoring institutions at an early age and have little communication and interaction with their parents. This is what we call urban left-behind children.
Unlike left-behind children in rural areas, their lives are not poor, and some are still very rich.
Some of them use the latest mobile phones, some have countless high-end toys, scary pocket money, and some go to the most expensive cram schools. However, like left-behind children in rural areas, they rarely see their parents and lack spiritual care.
Leo Tolstoy said the reason for the formation of left-behind children in cities: All happy families are similar, while each unfortunate family has its own misfortune.
So, what are the reasons for the formation of unfortunate left-behind children in cities? Let's take a look below! 1. Parents continue to study.
One or both parents go to another city or country for further studies and have to bid farewell to the child.
2. Parents temporarily go to the countryside.
Some parents serve in state organs as part of their job requirements, and must deputation to the countryside for work, to the grass-roots unit work, a few months, more than two years.
3. Parents operate a company in different places or are dispatched to another location for business purposes.
Some parents seem more like nomadic tribes, moving wherever there's a source of water and grass, unable to take care of their children. Meanwhile, some children have grown accustomed to life without their parents around.
4. The parents are busy with work.
Many of these parents are executives or leaders from companies, who frequently engage in business activities and have limited time to interact with their children.
This group of children is at the fringe of being left behind, and they are happier than urban left-behind children in a strict sense.
Once the child has an issue, parents can still quickly come to handle it.
5. Educational pursuits of children in different locations.
This represents a new form of caregiving, where parents send their children to study abroad for better education. Often, these children are placed in relatives' homes or live independently in distant places.
The characteristics of city left-behind children are so-called personality, three parts innate, seven parts after.
Let's delay into the sculpting of character traits by Hou Tianyin in children living in urban areas with special circumstances. Here's a look at how it all unfolds! Due to the absence of parental communication, urban left-behind children often exhibit exaggerated thinking patterns, characterized by their inability to engage with peers effectively, strained interpersonal relationships, and tendency to react impulsively when faced with challenges.
Additionally, unlike rural left-behind children who tend to be insecure and self-deprecating, urban left-behind children often exhibit a more assertive and self-centered personality.
"I don't care about the people who care about me because I have few," has become a psychological self-affirmation for many city children living away from their families.
Children who are older tend to constantly compare their parents with others, which can lead to resentment towards them and consequently anxiety, withdrawal, or other mental health issues.
The relationship between urban left-behind children and their parents is like this, Lin Yutang once said: "Happiness is sleeping in one's own bed, eating the food made by one's parents, listening to the sweet words of one's spouse, and playing with one's child."
However, for the children of urban left-behind parents, this ordinary scene of parent-child interaction is a luxury and a dream.
So, what is the relationship between left-behind children in cities and their parents? Let's take a look at it below! 1. Material satisfaction: These parents will try their best to satisfy left-behind children financially and materially, but rarely care about their children's spiritual needs.
Most children who grow up in this environment will show characteristics such as poor self-discipline, selfishness, willfulness, and lack of care and understanding for others.
2. Don't care: Because they are too busy with work or business, these parents often have no time to take care of their children at home, nor do they pay attention to contact and communication with their children.
The consequences of this are that not only do children not feel the love of their parents, have indifferent feelings for their parents, lack confidence in themselves, and they also have a negative attitude when it comes to interacting with others.
3. This type of parent who is caring and away from home will often call their children to communicate with them, encourage their children to make progress, tell their children about outside affairs, and use winter and summer vacations to take their children out for travel.
Obviously, this kind of family education focuses on both children's material needs and their spiritual needs.
But unfortunately, this method of family education is still in the minority.
Can left-behind children in cities suffer from urban autism? What is urban autism? Simply put, urban autism is a psychological feeling, loneliness in the hustle and bustle.
People suffering from urban autism are reluctant to contact others, and the Internet is their spiritual sustenance.
So, will left-behind children in cities in special environments suffer from urban autism? Although they are not short of money and have game consoles and pocket money that children envy, left-behind children in cities often feel bored because they cannot live with their parents.
The lack of family affection makes these children feel empty and confused, and it also makes them contract urban autism.
The main symptoms are: poor communication and few friends; company with game consoles; extreme; self-centeredness.
Only through comprehensive study at home, school, and society can children adapt to social life and gradually improve their personality.
If a child lacks the care and comfort of family affection for a long time, this will inevitably be detrimental to the formation of a healthy personality in the long run.
Therefore, the role of parents should not be absent during their child's development.
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